Category: Reflections

There are people who assume, for a variety of reasons, that Jesus couldn’t possibly be reaching out to them.

They don’t always say it out loud. More often, it shows up as distance. As hesitation. As a quiet dismissal before the question ever fully forms. Faith might work for other people—just not for someone with their history. They’ve made too many mistakes. They live with too many contradictions. There’s been too much damage done, or too much damage received.

So they stand near the edge. They’re convinced that if God is real, He is, at best, tolerating them from afar.

What’s striking is how rarely that belief comes from actually reading the Gospels themselves.

When you slow down and pay attention to who Jesus Christ moves toward—who He notices, speaks with, eats with, touches, and defends—the picture that emerges is almost the opposite of what many people expect.

Jesus didn’t orbit the acceptable and occasionally glance toward the rejected. He walked straight into their lives.

Who We Assume Jesus Is For

Many of us believe an unspoken hierarchy about who God welcomes:

The faithful.
The consistent.
The morally improving.
The people who “try harder.”
The ones who don’t embarrass Him.

By contrast, the rejected—the socially awkward, the morally complicated, the visibly broken—are often treated as projects at best or warnings at worst. That message may not be spoken directly, but it’s felt.

Come back when you’re cleaner.
Stay quiet until you’ve figured yourself out.
Belonging comes after improvement.

Over time, this settles into a quiet conclusion in the hearts of many: “Jesus might be good. Just not for someone like me.”

That conclusion doesn’t hold up when you actually follow Jesus through the pages of Scripture. What often feels like spiritual clarity turns out to be something we’ve learned to assume without ever stopping to see if it’s true.

Who Jesus Actually Welcomed

One of the clearest patterns in the Gospels is this:
Jesus consistently moved toward the very people others moved away from.

• The Woman at the Well

In John 4, Jesus speaks with a Samaritan woman who carried multiple layers of rejection.

She was a Samaritan, part of a group despised by Jews.
She was a woman, approached publicly by a rabbi.
She had a complicated personal history that made her an object of gossip and shame.
Even her timing—drawing water alone at midday—suggests someone accustomed to avoidance.

Jesus does not begin by correcting her life.
He does not lecture her about repentance.
He does not require her to explain herself.

He asks her for water.
He stays.
He listens.
He reveals Himself to her plainly.

Before her behavior changes, before her understanding is complete, she is treated as someone worth engaging—someone seen.

Belonging comes first.

• Tax Collectors and “Sinners”

Jesus’ reputation among religious leaders was not that He was strict, but that He was reckless with the wrong people.

“He eats with tax collectors and sinners.”

The accusation was meant to discredit Him. Instead, it reveals His priorities.

Tax collectors were collaborators.
Traitors.
Financial abusers.

“Sinners” was a broad label for anyone who didn’t fit religious respectability.

Jesus did not wait for them to clean themselves up before inviting them to the table.

He ate with them.
He shared space with them.
He restored their dignity in public.

And only then did lives begin to change—not because shame was applied, but because relationship was offered.

• Lepers and the Unclean

Leprosy was not just a medical condition. It was social exile.

Those labeled “unclean” were physically isolated, ritually avoided, and publicly marked as unsafe. They were accustomed to shouting warnings so others could keep their distance.

Jesus did not shout back.
He touched them.

In a world where no one would make physical contact, Jesus crossed that line deliberately. Healing was not just physical—it was relational. He restored people to community, not just health.

He did not heal from afar to preserve appearances.
He drew near, even when it cost Him socially.

• The Thief on the Cross

Near the end of His life, Jesus is executed—hung on a cross between two criminals.

One mocks Him.
The other—broken, condemned, out of time—asks to be remembered.

There is no opportunity for restitution.
No chance for long-term obedience.
No way to clean up his life.

When the thief recognizes Jesus and speaks with humility, Jesus does not hesitate.

“Today you will be with Me.”

In that moment, religious systems could offer nothing. Tortured and dying, Jesus still gives what He has always given.

Presence.

Rejection is not the final word.

• Peter After Denial

Perhaps one of the most personal moments comes after the resurrection, when Jesus meets Peter the Apostle—the disciple who denied Him publicly, repeatedly, and at the worst possible moment.

Peter had once declared unwavering loyalty.
He had promised devotion without limit.

But when fear took hold, Peter shunned Him—denying he even knew Jesus.

Jesus does not open with accusation.
He asks a question:

“Do you love Me?”

He asked the question three times. He did so not to shame Peter, but to restore him.

Peter did not seek Jesus.
Jesus sought him.

Peter’s failure did not disqualify him from the relationship.
It became the very place where restoration began.

Jesus Was Rejected, Too

This pattern is not accidental.

Jesus does not merely care about rejection.
He understands it from the inside.

He was misunderstood by His family.
Opposed by religious leaders.
Abandoned by friends.
Publicly humiliated.

Even His own hometown sought to kill Him.

Jesus knows what it is like to be unwanted.

Executed as a Criminal

Isaiah describes Him as “despised and rejected by men.”

Jesus was not rejected because He broke Roman law.
He was not cast out for criminal behavior or public disorder.

He was rejected because He unsettled power.
Because He refused to fit the categories people relied on.
Because His presence exposed hearts, systems, and hierarchies that preferred to remain untouched.

Jesus knows what it is like to be unwanted—not for wrongdoing, but for being who He was.

Which means when He moves toward the rejected, He is not offering distant sympathy.
He is offering shared ground.

He stands with those who feel pushed out—because He has stood there Himself.

Belonging Before Improvement

This is the distinction many people miss.

Jesus never pretended that behavior didn’t matter. Yet, He consistently treated belonging as the starting point, not the reward.

People were welcomed as they were.
Identity was restored before behavior was addressed.
Love was extended without preconditions.

That order matters.

Because shame rarely produces transformation. But being seen often does.

The Gospel stories are not about Jesus lowering standards. They are about Him refusing to withhold Himself from those who came to Him—even before they knew how to change.

For Those Standing at the Edge

If you’ve ever felt disqualified by your past, your inconsistency, your doubts, or your failures, this matters. If church culture taught you that God tolerates you at best, this matters. If you’ve assumed that Jesus is mostly disappointed in you, this matters.

The consistent witness of Scripture isn’t that Jesus waited for people to become worthy.

It is that He treated them as worthy enough to approach in the first place.

Rejection Is Not the End of the Story

Jesus does not minimize pain.
He does not romanticize brokenness.
He does not ignore harm.

But He also does not abandon people where they are. He meets them there.

The heart of the Gospel is not a demand shouted from a distance. It is an invitation offered up close.

Jesus was rejected so that rejection would never be the final word.

We’re often sold a version of faith that functions like a self-improvement program. But when life doesn’t ‘fall into place’ after we say the right words, we tend to assume the failure is ours. We think we’re uniquely broken or inherently flawed because the ‘peace’ we were promised feels more like a struggle.

Acknowledging that faith is difficult isn’t a sign of failure; it’s a sign of honesty.

For many people, myself included, Christianity didn’t make life easier. In some ways, it made life harder. More honest. More exposed. Less comfortable. Less excusable.

Faith doesn’t arrive like a soothing answer; it arrives like a spotlight. It doesn’t remove our complications; it reveals them. Before faith, I could explain away a lot. I could justify my reactions, minimize my habits, blame circumstances, blame other people, blame the past. I had reasons. I had stories. I had defenses. Most of us do.

For anyone who’s spent years trying to maintain a composed exterior while feeling like a mess inside, this is a heavy realization. But there’s a hidden mercy here: once everything is in the light, the need to hide finally disappears.

Jesus didn’t remove the masks. He exposed them—not to condemn us, but to release us from the burden of pretending.

And that’s where the difficulty begins.

Christianity doesn’t simply ask you to believe something new. Jesus asks you to see yourself clearly. Not as you wish you were. Not as others perceive you. But as you actually are—flaws included, motives exposed, and contradictions intact.

That kind of seeing is not comfortable.

We tend to think of sin as a list of forbidden actions, but the deeper issue is orientation. It’s not just what we do. It’s what we love, what we trust, what we cling to when things fall apart. Faith has a way of revealing those attachments. And when they’re unhealthy, or simply misaligned, it hurts to let them go.

Following Christ means confronting yourself honestly. And honesty is rarely easy.

There’s also the matter of surrender.

We like the language of faith until it bumps into control. Until trust requires relinquishment. Until obedience costs something real: reputation, comfort, certainty, or relationships.

It’s one thing to say, “I trust God.” It’s another to keep trusting when outcomes don’t seem to change.

Prayer doesn’t function like a lever. Faith doesn’t guarantee relief. And obedience does not shield us from hardship. If anything, faith removes our favorite escape routes. It eliminates convenient excuses. It strips away the illusion that we are entitled to an easy life.

Jesus never framed discipleship as a path toward comfort. He spoke of crosses, not cushions. He warned of division, not applause. He invited people into a way of life that would reorder priorities, challenge loyalties, and disrupt familiar patterns.

That disruption can be costly.

When values begin to diverge or old labels no longer fit, the feeling of not belonging can sharpen. It’s easy to feel like an outcast in your own life. But these shifts aren’t evidence that you’re being discarded; they’re often the growing pains of an identity being anchored in something deeper than social approval. You may lose your ‘place’ in certain circles, but you’re discovering a foundation that doesn’t shift with the wind.

Perhaps even more painful is the loss of our illusions—the ones that make our own faults, the failures of others, and the shape of life itself easier to live with.

And then there is the quiet difficulty. It’s the kind that doesn’t show up in arguments or visible sacrifice. The difficulty of patience—of trusting God’s timing when it doesn’t match our sense of urgency.

There are seasons when faith feels strong and seasons when it feels threadbare. Times when God feels close and times when He feels silent. Christianity does not promise uninterrupted clarity. It promises presence—sometimes perceived, sometimes not.

Jesus asks us to love people we would rather dismiss. To forgive when resentment feels justified. To confess when pride would prefer silence. To serve without recognition. To endure without guarantees.

And this kind of faith is often practiced in the absence of reassurance.

That’s hard.

And yet, over time, something strange happens: the weight doesn’t disappear, but it begins to carry meaning.

That’s why Christianity can’t be reduced to moral performance or emotional certainty. It’s a relationship shaped by trust, not control. Growth, not arrival. Refinement, not reward.

And this is where many people quietly step away—not because they don’t believe, but because belief didn’t deliver what they were promised.

They were told faith would fix everything. They discovered it revealed everything.

They were told Christianity was about being a good person. They discovered it was about becoming an honest one.

They were told following Jesus would make life smoother. They found it made life deeper.

Depth comes at a cost, but it also comes with something else—something quieter, steadier, and harder to articulate.

It comes with a peace that is not dependent on outcomes.

It brings hope that survives disappointment.

Identity that does not collapse under pressure.

Faith does not remove suffering, but it reframes it.

It does not eliminate struggle, but it anchors it.

Christianity does not offer control. It offers trust.

It does not offer certainty. It offers faithfulness.

It does not offer ease. It offers transformation.

And transformation, by its nature, is uncomfortable.

If Christianity were easy, it would be shallow. If it were painless, it would be cosmetic. If it were convenient, it would be optional.

It is none of those things.

It is demanding.

It is refining.

It is costly.

And yet, for those who remain, who wrestle honestly, doubt sincerely, fail repeatedly, and still return, it proves something else as well: not mastery or ease, but belonging.

We often feel we must ‘earn’ our seat at the table by making the Christian life look easy. But the table isn’t for those who have mastered the walk; it’s for those who know exactly how heavy the journey is and have decided they no longer want to face it alone.

No one ever claimed being a Christian was easy.

They claimed it was worth it—not because life becomes lighter, but because it becomes anchored.

Because you are no longer hiding from the truth about yourself, and you are no longer facing that truth alone.

Because grace meets you not after you are finished changing, but right in the middle of it.

Because even when obedience costs you something real, it no longer costs you your place.

Christianity does not promise comfort.

It promises companionship.

And for those who have learned how heavy life can be, that difference matters.